I have visions of many things.
Love's happiness is just an illusion,
Filled with sadness and confusion.
What becomes of the broken hearted?
I wasn't going to write this, but then I woke up and realized I'm a little tired. I think part of it is that I am exhausted from Sunday and if that triathlon wore me out, then in 20 days, I might be put on bed rest.
Part of it is that I have grown weary of people spinning the public relations machines for other people and part of it is that I just don't care to pretend anymore.
I'm watching a good friend lose his marriage it makes me sad because he is sad.
No matter how many times I hear his wife say that I hate her, or that I spread lies about her or, or, or, it doesn't matter.
Why? Because people have a right to believe what they want. They also have a right to say what they want, as long as they keep it away from me.
I've chosen to stay away from her words because I want to be able to say, honestly, that I have no idea what she's talking about when she posts on AFF.
I've listened to her husband tell me how much he loves his wife and family and I feel for them both. I want to say it's going to be okay, but what does that really mean?
The truth is, I've tried to be completely unbiased and keep saying that his wife has a right to be happy and he should respect that. We aren't who we were at 18 or 19 or 20. And there is nothing wrong with that. It is empowering to admit that we change and that our needs become something we might not have imagined.
I have to respect someone who says: I am not happy, and this will be for the best.
Maybe right now it doesn't seem like the best for all, but honestly, who gets to decide that? Only the people making the decision.
So, while I'm told how I feel, or what I think or what I'm saying, the truth is, people have every right to be happy.
Sometimes, the balance between self and family can't be found. That's sad, but there are ways to make sure that promises kept aren't all broken.
But this is why the AFF-y is not for me, I've grown tired of reading too many stories about too many breakups or too many people who don't realize that you can read a person's 'intent' in their words. For years in some cases.
Even if they can't.
If therapy has taught me nothing else, it has taught me to be honest about how important it is to follow your heart.
And that goes for people I love and people who are just passing by in life.